Is our relationship strong or weak? What are the positives of my relationship with her? What are the negatives of my relationship with her? What can be done to improve my relationship with her? Have I done anything wrong in the past to hurt her deeply? If so, could her hostile behavior towards me be a result of my mistake?
Be careful of who you tell your sister’s qualities to, as this could end badly. It’s best to tell your friends about how talented your sister is, so that they will look up to her.
Make sure you go to her at the right time, such as when she isn’t in her room. If you interrupt what she is doing in the privacy of her room, she may be unwilling to accept your apology. If you can’t remember any recent fights, apologize for anything you have done in the past to hurt her. Make sure you mean it, and you aren’t just saying it.
If you return an insult, it will only provoke your sister’s anger further, and she will refuse any following apologies for a while. If she calls you back, cautiously return. Don’t look too eager or quick for her forgiveness, but don’t move slowly or she will take it as reluctance, and perhaps be offended.
If she tells you, immediately apologize after she is done talking, and don’t interrupt her. Assure her that you will make sure it doesn’t happen again on purpose. If she refuses to tell you, mention that if she wants to talk, you will listen. Still tell her that you’re sorry.
If you’re too nice to her, she may get annoyed and/or suspicious. Keep your kindness to an appropriate level.
If you don’t leave, you will just see a door slammed in your face.
Refrain from being a tattletale, but do let your parents know if she has been abusing or hurting you in any way, verbally or physically.
Never go into her room without her permission. Think of her room as off limits for you, unless if she opens the door for you to come in. If she does allow you in her room, take it a special privilege. Don’t touch any of her belongings, no matter how tempted you are, or she may kick you out, and never allow you back in. Respect her privacy and boundaries, and only touch what she allows you to touch. If she does allow you to touch something, be extremely careful with it. Don’t drop, damage, or spoil it. If you do damage a belonging of hers, buy another for her, or fix it (if possible).
If you don’t tell her that you love her, she will not know that, and will become even more annoying because of that. She will believe that you don’t love her, when really, you do.
