Remembering these things will help you to eventually make peace with your enemies.

Understand if you need more time. If your enemy has hurt you very deeply – such as a friend who had an affair with your spouse or a co-worker who has sabotaged a professional opportunity for you – then it might take a lot of time before you can try to forgive them. [4] X Trustworthy Source Mayo Clinic Educational website from one of the world’s leading hospitals Go to source

Letting go of bitterness can also have enormous benefits for your mental well being, giving you higher self-esteem and improving your psychological welfare. [7] X Trustworthy Source Mayo Clinic Educational website from one of the world’s leading hospitals Go to source

Remember that when you indulge in resentful thoughts toward your enemy, you keep yourself in the position of a victim. You continue to allow them to have power over your thoughts. If you can’t love them at first, then try to at least ignore them or think of them in a neutral light. [9] X Trustworthy Source Mayo Clinic Educational website from one of the world’s leading hospitals Go to source

When have you been forgiven in the past? How did that person express their sense of empathy or compassion toward you?

If you are not interested in reconciling with your enemy, then at least try to look at your interactions as a way to maintain a basic level of respect with them. Be courteous in you interactions with them – greet them when you see them and congratulate them when they have major milestones. [13] X Research source

This experience will also connect you to other people who have been hurt in similar ways. It will give you a community you can turn to for support. [14] X Research source

You can also join groups and meet people who share similar interests to you, like hiking groups, photography clubs or writing workshops. Search for groups that meet in your local community centers, libraries or universities.

A therapist can also give you strategies for navigating the process of forgiveness and moving on from the pain of your interactions with your enemy.